What is true or complete happiness....
One in the divine/To be able to share your joy & abundance with your family?
or something likewise
Well...let's see what does family mean to us..."Vasudhev Kutumbkam" (the whole world is my family myth) or your family only your blood(y) kith and kin.
Depending on this you will have your slice of happiness or unhappiness.
As many people you have to deal with...that shall lead to your 'happy meter"
So... what do you think?... won't that be simpler if your happiness if at all has to depend on anything then it's only on one person and that is 'you' Only???
Hmm...let's see if it is possible to stay that way... happy or unhappy... with yourself
Surely... you are the happiest "if " you do not have unrealistic expectations from self like driving to the moon in 5 minutes and getting the stars when you want etc.
Ok ok ... jokes apart... why would you rather not be happy with yourself ? ... let's look at it this way.
What can make you unhappy with yourself ?
1. Appearance ? ... well everybody is unique & complete in their own way
2. Career ? ... hmm... does your career ONLY define you ? ... come on get real... nobody is concerned how good or bad you do in your office
3. Family ? ... Pl watch... that means other people ... not you
4. Social status... this is biggest facade... come on... face it ... you are what you are
5. Goals ?... achieved some/will achieve some... rest shall also come...be wise not dumb
6. Friends ?... mind you..that means other people... oh ok... you mean the number of friends...
Believe me... one 'good one' is much better than the hoards of them... they can be actually a pain in the neck or 'as... sometimes... So get over and move on.
7. Wishes unfulfilled... life's too short & transient for all of them to be fulfilled... you are here today, gone tomorrow like the bubble in a puddle.
8. You don't have enough clothes...come on go out & see on the roads of any under-developed or developing countries...Shhh...even some of the so called developed ones too.
9. You don't enough to eat... you have?...that too in the comfort of your home or a place where you are living safely...that's more important... get in the gratefulness mode... life shall be easier
10. Your partner doesn't listen to you... well it was your choice to have this one... so if you can't meal with it...deal with it... don't stay stuck... proverbial Love may strike someday... make your efforts & move on from the situation not the person necessarily (it's your own reflection... find the cause not the shadow of it if you have the courage) ... No matter how many partners you change... situation's gonna be the same (generally)... exceptions exist!
11. Children?... Who are they?... if they are not yours...why are you concerned... if they are yours... you can't be concerned... they are as good or as bad as you ... Period!... stop the non-sense of driving yourself nuts. They are reminding you of something that you didnt mend & forgot. That's all.
12. Anything else... that might have been missed ... Pl feel free to mention... shall help many to find a reason to move on in life from that too... in turn... removing one more block to happiness.
13. Not mentioned money...because I believe all of you have seen it or know it already.."Money can't buy happiness"... so let's not invest more of our energy there.
So what are we left with now to deal with.... not much ... feeling lighter?
So let's focus on something new now... what takes away this lightness or even better what all can aid us in maintaining this lightness.
Not just mentally... even physically
(Good news for all those people who have extra pounds to let go...get rid of all the crappy & junk emotions... your diets & exercise will shown better results.)
Next post shall have more info & detail on this... till then... just live light with all your might... stay bright & live better not a battling knight.