Dr. Monica Nagpal. CEO and founder of The Healing Zone, known as Miracle Lady for her miraculous healing and counselling. Her wisdom and experience guides to attain highest potential of an individual, bring balance, focus , concentration, productivity, good health, better finance and improves relationship.
Now let's talk about apologising or seeking forgiveness. People often mistake 'forgiving' with 'being submissive' or 'losing your ground' or 'accepting non-sense' repeatedly and things like these. Well, highly mistaken! My apologies to those but friends...'forgiveness is not a tool used by meek or weak people rather it's the strength of a person. By forgiving, you save your time and energy on something which is least important in the actual mechanics. That's right. But if you allow a person or situation to abuse you n the name of 'forgiveness' then it's your choice not that person or situation. Forgiveness is acceptance coupled with letting go. Letting go in effect shall entail to the fact that either that person/situation changes or changes. It implies that either the person/situation is transformed or is removed from your life. Be mindful of not allowing anybody to trespass in your sane space just because you are kind and forgiving. That's complete forgiveness, it is surely NOT allowance of continued abuse in your life.
Be wise, smart and cool enough to know where to stop. Forgive but remember to guard your space from unhealthy people and situations. This changes your space, your thinking pattern and thus paves a fresh way to a new leash of life in the same life that you are living. Forgive and let go forever. Sure shot to happiness.
Avoid making conversations just
for the purpose of doing it. They never lead anywhere. Sometimes silence is
surely the best substitute. Be mindful of your itch to express in case you can
make out that it's not going to make any sense to the other person. Else, all
you will be left with is unsaid and misunderstood words and leave an undesired
impression or a scar on your heart/mind/or wherever you wish to forbear the
fruits of this unwanted chit-chat. Be sensible enough to decide when to stop
and when to open your mind. Never ever take the 'understanding' of others of
'you' for granted. It can vary from person to person and even with the same
person from time to time.
Ask yourself, do you really need
to continue this conversation...trust the time that you put in taking a pause
to ask this is very meagre in comparison to the time you are going to spend in
undoing the 'unwanted chat' and furthermore sometimes you can't even do that.
Avoid the scars which are undeniably unwanted in any case and can never be
When was the last time, you ever
felt good after an argument, no matter how justified you were. I am sure
'never' is the answer. Argument can never leave you refreshed. Yes, a good
discussion can. They key is to be mindful when the 'discussion' is about to
turn into or slip into an 'argument', stop yourself from continuing even if you
got to apologise, do it. This is very small price you pay for your mental